Views on how to tackle any situation. For
instance relationships.
Sometimes we often don’t
realize how to handle problems or any situation we face, in the relationships
we encounter. People do react the same in any situation they happen to face in
the sense that they respond with emotions when they should sit back get all
emotional as they can and face the problem with a clear mindset.
Responding with emotions tends
to make you say things you actually don’t mean, and regret. What we all need to
learn is to separate emotions and the mind to yield a better outcome. In
Ecclesiastes 10 verse 1 it says ‘‘if a ruler’s anger rises against you, do not
leave your post; calmness can lay great errors to rest. This also applies to
how one can tackle whatever situation they are in.
Calmness makes one achieve so
much. No matter how much you feel provoked by a situation. Sometimes walking
away does not mean you are weak it just means you know when it to avoid
situations that will make you leave your post.
The
meaning of the h.a.t.e u. song by Mariah Carey.
Pain is not the easiest thing to live with. Pretending to
be happy when you are in pain is just an example of how strong you are as a
person. Pain is part of growing up and it is how we learn.
George Eliot states that pain must enter into its glorified
life of memory before it can turn to compassion. Looking at this song it shows
how deeply bruised she was. It’s as though he made it so hard for her to
believe in love again or better yet to trust someone again.
It is always hard to say goodbye to the person you thought
was or is the one. Letting go of something you once held so much high regard
for tears one apart emotionally mentally and physically.In the chorus of the song she even say she
cannot wait to hate him make him pain like she is. But then again you can never
hate someone you really loved.
You can be mad at them and not want to see them but hating
them is the far from the table. Affairs of the heart are very complicated and
if not very careful they can destroy one permanently. People come and go, just
as pain comes and goes.
In her song there is a verse she says ‘‘no need to call my
phone, I changed my numbers today and matter of fact she thought of moving
away, meaning she had decided to let go and deal with her pain, running away
from the pain she was going through seemed to be the only thing that will bring
sanity to her miserable life. She even apologizes that her frustration towards
the situation has her feeling like she has one last thing to say to him.
The reason why one gets frustrated is because you would
have invested so much. The thought of letting something you worked so hard to
build is rather frustrating.
This song has so much depth in it. In the sense that this
is a man who is desperate to know the position he is in with the woman of his
dream. It’s as though the woman is not clear With her intentions to towards her
man. She seems to be making him believe that she is all in but playing him for
a fool. He does realize it but is blinded by the love he has for her.
There is a part of the song that says’’ cause if you say
you love me now and love me right then I am leaving you tonight, am not coming
back. My love not coming back you’ve begin playing silly games and sprinkling
water on my face. I don’t want to go through this again.’’. Which means he
realized she was not all in. She somewhat was still playing him and he did not
seem to want to believe that. Basically his holding on to hope that she is the
one because he actually is in love with her.
Even though she is fully aware that he is here to stay, he
just needed to know the feeling is mutual. Hence the chorus his asking her
indirectly what her position is in the relationship. This song displays his
innermost thoughts and because he constantly was thinking about it, he
implemented change by asking her how she truly felt about him.
Gender
is an illusive term that defies clear cut definition. There are many
definitions of gender, such as (Woods, 2007, p, 318) interpretation that gender
‘‘is a symbolic construction that expresses the meanings a society confers on
biological sex’’. Wood further states that different cultures and societies and
even communities have varied definition of gender.
According
to (Carter, 2004, p, 348) use the term gender for ‘‘meaningful ways to discuss
men and women, and differences between women and men’’. The concept of gender to
differentiate between the two sexes, male and female, but they also emphasise
the importance of social construction (Haywood, 2003, p, 153).Gender is a ‘‘social process of dividing up’’
individuals and social practices with reference to sexual identities that are
masculine or feminine. He adds that gender identity from the one devalues or
undermines the other. According to (Squires, 1997, p, 12) considers gender an
acceptable academic and colloquial term for the analysis of social and sexual
relations between men and women.
Gender
refers to the ways we describe human beings based on ideas about being female
and ideas about being male. Gender refers to the concepts of feminity and
masculinity which have been shaped by our societies, traditions, religions,
families and education. Whereas biological sex refers to how we are constructed
physically, gender refers to the social construction of men and women.
According
to (Carter & Steiner, 2004, p, 347) feminism is a political philosophy and
social-political movement it is marked by an emancipatory concern to explain
and overcome sub ordination and oppression of all kinds. Whereas masculinity as
a social construct; masculinity is socially, culturally and historically
constructed (Connell, 2000, p, 16; Beasley, 2005, p, 178).
Masculinists,
or academics working in the field of men’s studies, sometimes believe that is
men who are victimized and oppressed, and thus seek ‘‘to preserve men’s freedom
from women and feminization. Men have traditionally been less involved in
gender movements because historically they have always had the advantage,
benefiting enormously from patriarchy (Woods, 2007, p, 319).
