THE JOURNEY OF BEING HURT…

I can say being hurt is the most painful road one has to walk on. It’s simple when you don’t want to believe the truth from either your instincts or your friends. Often times I let go of my closest friends because I believed them bringing up lies. What strikes more is having to see all that they saying and yet still hold on hoping for change. Emotions can be a downfall barrier if let loose.

When you believe you have found the one and each and every day you grateful for having him in your life. It’s only when that very same person you value with your heart so much that

you would destroy anyone who would try and harm them. Not knowing you being taken for a ride and when you finally open your h\eyes to see, the pain experienced then haunts you deep and beyond because you would have given in so much and its time you would have invested building something that just never had a foundation from the beginning.

Why we tend to be frustrated or rather what causes frustration is the investment you would have put in. when you in the situation it is not easy to think with the mind and not the heart. Emotions are the main factor because you hold so much high regards for the person, that you never seem to pay attention to the hurt they actually causing to you. The worst feeling is when the person who made you feel special, then suddenly leaves you hanging. The more you show your true feelings, the more people find ways to hurt you.

So does that then mean don’t show how much you care and love because one person messed you up? LOVE isn’t easy it needs one to be patient, it doesn’t always make sense. People are built up differently, you can change everything for the person you want to be with but that doesn’t necessarily mean they will change at your pace. It doesn’t bring anyone joy knowing that this person is hurt. What I do know is that there is no fool that doesn’t listen

THE MINDSET THOUGHT PATTERN

THE THOUGHT PATTERN OF THE MIND.

The mind is a powerful thing. It can either build you or destroy you completely. One has to be careful with the mind all the time. Your thought pattern attracts your crowd. What that means is that is the thought pattern of your mind determines your goals and where you are headed in life. If you think small, you achieve small and attract small in your life, but if you think big, you achieve big and attract big to your life.

The mind is a funny tool but it needs to be controlled. The mind is more like the backbone of the body. Though it is the main function of the body. If you constantly think negative, you become negative because you would have programmed your mind to that.

We are our own minds but we let emotions hit the best of our thinking capacity. Sometimes we react to situations with emotions when what we actually need to do is sit in calmness and let the mind think in clear sense and a clear platform.

What you want or what you want the mind needs is a thought pattern that builds and yields better and outstanding results constantly when we work on that the thought pattern changes completely and you will see that your everyday life is a happy soulful life. It is not the easiest but if you constantly think positive you become positive. Positive is basically you.

Friends

Friendship.

The term friendship means a bond between people who've made a similar commitment and who possibly therefore share a similar destiny. It implies the presence of the deepest connection of friendship, of lives lived as comrades from the distant past (Lickerman).

WHAT DRAWS PEOPLE TOGETHER AS FRIENDS?

1.  Common interests. This probably ties us closer to our friends than many would like to admit. When our interests diverge and we can find nothing to enjoy jointly, time spent together tends to rapidly diminish. Not that we can't still care deeply about friends with whom we no longer share common interests, but it's probably uncommon for such friends to interact on a regular basis.

2.  History. Nothing ties people together, even people with little in common, than having gone through the same difficult experience. As the sole glue to keep friendships whole in the long run, however, it often dries, cracks, and ultimately fails.

3.  Common values. Though not necessarily enough to create a friendship, if values are too divergent, it's difficult for a friendship to thrive.

4.  Equality. If one friend needs the support of the other on a consistent basis such that the person depended upon receives no benefit other than the opportunity to support and encourage, while the relationship may be significant and valuable, it can't be said to define a true friendship.

SOURCES CONSULTED.

Dr. Lickerman's book, The Undefeated Mind: On the Science of Constructing an Indestructible Self.

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Time.

TIME.

 

Time has a wonderful way of showing us what really matters we often miss the concept of time yet it’s the most valuable thing that what we tend to value most which is money. You can always get money and more of it in fact but you can never get more time in life. Something we don’t tend to put into our consideration. Insight by (William Penn) states that time is what we want most but we use worst. This simply means that we actually do get the time yet we always make the worst with the time given. Procrastination always makes it worse in terms of time.

I have wasted so much of my time holding on things that were not real, it’s now when I say take me to the time things were fine, its fine all broken now. But it’s still up to me to either change what I have lost in the time I stood there and held on a string of hope. They say don’t waste time on someone who doesn’t have time for you. Such a strong statement it only makes sense when you out of the situation and you sit back and play what each and every one had to say. But what I needed to realise was spending the day complaining about yesterday won’t make tomorrow any better. It’s either you run the day or the day runs you.

Time is free, better yet priceless. You can own time but what you can do with it is use it. It is something you can’t keep but you can spend it either wisely or however you feel. But the main thing that we all need to keep in mind is that once lost you can never get it back and that is what hurts the most. In life there comes a time when you have to choose between turning the page and just closing the chapter and start on a new one. Build and work on you. There is nothing that brings greater joy when you realise you have used up your time doing what makes you happy and not being trapped in things that hurt you.

The best gift you could ever give to someone is your TIME because you are giving them something you can never get back.